My life has a purpose. I was created to do something special. I believe this with my whole being. I believe this because the person I love the most in this world, my mother, told me. I know my mother would never lie to me. How did this happen?
My parents — John and Mary O’Donovan — were both born in New York state. After World War II, they married on June 14, 1947. June 14 is Flag Day. In 1948, my oldest brother, Kevin, was born on April 23. A year later, my brother Dennis Joseph was born on Mother’s Day — May 10, 1949. I was born the following year on June 25, 1950.
The story goes … we lived in a tenement building in Manhattan, on the first floor. When my mother found out she was pregnant for the third time in three consecutive years, my parents were filled with joy. Now, perhaps, they would have that baby girl my mother so badly wanted to have. She spoke with the family that lived in the apartment next to theirs. It turned out that she had also gotten pregnant at the same time. Both of their babies were due to be born on the same day — June 25, 1950.
Months passed and finally, the blessed day came. I was born on a Wednesday morning. I weighed 8 pounds. When my mother and father arrived home with me, they spread the good news to the neighbors.
“What did you name your girl?” they asked.
My mother told them, “Oh! It wasn’t a girl after all. We had a son. His name is Brian.” The neighbors were so surprised to hear this. My mother and father looked at them and asked them, “And what did you have?”
They replied, “We also had a boy on the same day you did at the same hospital, at the same hour. We named him Brian, too.”
Years, passed and I grew to be a 4-year-old. Brian was my neighbor, but I confess I don’t remember playing with him much because we were so young. I played with my brothers: Kevin, Dennis, and Michael, who was born after I was — before Mary and Rory were born in ’53 and ’54.
Well, my father died just before my fifth birthday on June 3, 1955. My mother was devastated. They had no insurance. My mother was left a widow with six children. My youngest brother had been born on Oct. 17, 1954, and dad died before Rory reached his first birthday. My mother received a gift of money from my aunt and uncle. They had been saving for five or 10 years to take a fabulous trip to Europe and see where my uncle had fought in WWII. However, they knew my mother’s situation was horrible and desperate.
She had to get a job to support us. She had been a stay-at-home mom until my father died because he had a good job with a petroleum company. His job was to go around and find places to open gas stations. Well, everything changed for us when my father died, but I was too young to understand any of it. So, my childhood continued unchanged as I play with my toy men every day in my own little fantasy land.
My mother moved us to Miami, Fla., on the 12th of December 1955. I carried all of my toys in a U.S. Army duffle bag on the plane. I had cowboys and Indians; knights (49 of them); some spacemen, soldiers and horses and some Civil War soldiers blue and gray. I was as happy as could be with or without my dad as long as I had my toy men.
A couple of years passed and I was playing in the backyard in a sand pile my mother had made for us by having a truck haul it in and dump it. She called me to the kitchen. I remember she began, “Brian, do you remember that other Brian that was our neighbor and was born the same day you were in New York?”
I replied, “Yes, mother.”
My mother continued, “Well, you know he was run over by a car in the street in front of the tenement we used to live in. Always remember that God took him and spared you because he has a plan for you. God wants you to do something special in this world. That other Brian’s life is over. Will you remember that God spared you and that he wants you to do something special with your life?”
I told my mother, “Yes, mother. I’ll remember.” And boys and girls, to this day I have always remembered what my mother told me that day.
Brian Donald O’Donovan,
teacher at Mountain Vista Continuation High School,
Madera